14 Days of Love: The Power of Love

Hi everyone! I’m Lauren Douglass, from The Arizona Prepster! I am a college sophomore at Arizona State University and I’m very excited to share my story of love with you! First, some background. I’m 19 years old, originally from sunny Southern California and have been in my relationship for almost two years now {it’ll be on 3/9 so next month!!!}. I’ve suffered from depression, anorexia and anxiety {I stll suffer from anxiety} and have come a long way from where I used to be and love is the reason why! So let me tell you about it!

I met my boyfriend Matthew when I was at my lowest point. I didn’t really care about my grades or myself. I don’t think he knew I was single so he ended up with someone else {to my dismay}. That didn’t mean the end of our friendship though; he still helped me see the better side of myself. He helped me eat more often and made sure my happiness came before his own. I liked him {okay maybe more than liked him} but I would never step in between a relationship. So I started dating my {now} ex. I liked him and he made me happy but I never stopped talking to Matt. He was the one who truly made me feel loved. By my senior year I was happier {even though I had gotten dumped the day before ID pictures} and I enjoyed my life more. Fast forward through two more rounds with said ex, Matt and I were FINALLY single at the same time and that’s when….the kiss happened! It came as a total shock; I had no idea he liked me like that and just being kissed out of nowhere was crazy! My mind was swirling and then he asked “Will you give me the honor of being your boyfriend” {swoon!!! I STILL swoon over that question}. So March 9, 2013 I became his girlfriend and we’re two years strong living happily in Phoenix, Arizona with a cat.

Many would probably read this and say that I don’t need validation from him, that I need to love myself. I do, and it took me until writing this post to realize that I truly do love myself. I don’t love him and hate myself; you can’t do that. All he did was help me up out of the dark hole and was there to catch me when I stumble. He was a friend when I needed one, a real one. He wasn’t afraid to get stern when I became stubborn. We became best friends and we still are! He knew how much music impacts me and he “dedicated” the Rascal Flatts song I Won’t Let Go to me. Whenever I felt low he would play that song for me. I wouldn’t be where I am without his support and he wouldn’t still be the kind man he is without the happiness I bring to his life. We compliment each other’s strengths and constructively point out each other’s weakness. We build, not tear down.

Love is life changing and life-saving. Whether it’s self-love, friend love or relationship love everybody needs some love in their life. Many become cynical because they have no romantic partner to love {or spoil them} on Valentine’s Day. Do you have friends? Family? You have people who love you and that’s what should be celebrated on February 14; love! Going through this high school experience has taught me that love will come on its own time and {as cliché as this is about to sound} if it’s meant to be, it will happen. Trust me I used to not believe that but it’s true.

You are beautiful and worth the fullest of love! Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Lauren Douglas | The Arizona Prepster

Christmas Review #10

  • Stories like this always make me happy! It’s so nice when two people who love each other finally get together and are still happy and in love <3

  • Brandi_B

    That is absolutely beautiful. I have two daughters. One who has battled anorexia, and we still struggle some days with making sure she eats. One suffers from severe anxiety and depression. I don’t know how to help her other than to be there for her when she needs me. Reading your story gives me hope for my girls!

  • Fiona Naughton

    How lovely that Lauren’s boyfriend helped her through that dark phase in her life. My fiance has done a similar thing with me.

  • “Love is life changing and life saving.” This is so true! Loved reading your story, Lauren, thanks for sharing it 🙂

  • Liz Mays

    Sometimes it takes a while to get to that one you’re meant to be with. I’m glad he was so supportive and loving over the years.

  • That’s a really nice love story. It’s so nice how love waited for the right time and made you a better person.

  • Judy Albright

    I have tears pouring down my face. Knowing you two, knowing strengths and weaknesses and “quirks” 😀 I do truly believe you came into each other’s lives for a reason and not just a season as they say. You balance each other so perfectly. You keep each other in line, but in a loving way.

    I never knew the whole story … and now I’m glad that I do. Just know… take your time to enjoy each other, enjoy your lives, I know it’s always rush rush rush with both of you, stop and smell the roses 🙂 Hard to do, but make the time. It matters.

    And I will never forget the day he told me about you, nor the first time you walked into my home, obviously as nervous as could be, and I truly do love you… as a person and as Jingle’s the kitty’s Mommy, and most of all – for all of your love you give to Matthew daily.

    I don’t think I have ever seen such a perfect balance of two people needing certain things from the other and getting them in full return. 🙂

  • Angie K

    You are absolutely right, even if we don’t have a special someone, we all have someone who loves us. This year for Vday I am going out with a gf since we are both single. And I am so very excited 🙂

  • This story touches my heart!!! <3

  • Jennifer Juro

    What a beautiful story!! I meet my husband at a time I could
    not have cared if I ever meet anyone, it is funny how life works out

  • What a wonderful love story. Love is so magically wonderful and different for everyone.

  • I don’t think you should beat yourself up for finding how to love yourself with the help of another. Sometimes it takes another person showing us how to love ourselves.

  • What a beautiful story! Love is too powerful.. I really liked this line -Love is life changing and life-saving. Whether it’s self-love, friend love or relationship love everybody needs some love in their life.

  • CourtneyLynne

    Omg what a lovely story!! I don’t see anything wrong with needing allitle validation from others about things 😉 I’m the same kinda way… I am very confident & love myself… But nothing feels better than someone you Care about telling you great things 😉

  • What a beautiful love story! Happy Valentine’s day to you two and keep on loving!

  • “Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
    ― Bob Marley

  • I’m going through a really tough breakup right now, so I’ll be practicing lots and lots of self love this Valentine’s day. It was nice to read your story, though. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Michelle Hwee

    Awww what a beautiful story! it really touches my heart and is inspirational. Thanks for posting it, it made my day!

  • I love a loving and inspirational story – thanks for sharing this with us. <3 Very lovely.

  • Kira T

    Thanks for sharing this. This is a fantastic post.