14 Days Of Love: The Greatest Love Of All

On the 11th day I bring you “The Greatest Love of All” written by one of my dearest friends Amanda Ramirez ♥ Enjoy 

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I have learned (and continue to learn) what it means to love SELF. With that knowledge, I have learned what it means to love another. I love myself, and I try to accept every piece of myself, everyday. Love is about acceptance. I am no perfect being, but I strive to be the best ME that I can be. Along my journey, I have realized that those who do not accept themselves, have a hard time loving, period. They can’t love themselves, which in turn makes it difficult to truly love another. I have been there and plan to never go back. 

Another important lesson I have learned about love, is that love is KIND and kindness starts with the way we treat ourselves. How we treat others, is only a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. I have experienced both friendships and relationships where I was treated poorly because of how those individuals felt about themselves. Because I love myself, I chose to remove myself from those relationships. Like I said, love is kindness and for someone to treat you other than kind only is a reflection of self.

Within the last couple of years, I have been so blessed to experience one of the healthiest relationships one could ever experience. My relationship is a reflection of myself and of my boyfriend. Our relationship is secure because we as individuals are secure.Jealousy has no home in a place where security thrives” (realist thing I have ever come up with).

I firmly believe that my relationship is healthy because of the love I have for myself, and because of the love my boyfriend has for his self. Love of self allows us to love in a way that some may never experience because of lack of self-love. Self love is so powerful, you have to feel it to believe it! Our relationship is healthy, but do not confuse that with perfection. In my eyes, my relationship is greatness, pretty much perfect. However, perfection is perception. I perceive my relationship to be just that. Occasionally, I fight with my significant other, but we always communicate and forgive one another (forgiveness is key). We learn from our disagreements and we GROW. Love is about growth, and I TELL YA, WE ARE GROWING! I am so happy and excited about all of the growth that is happening, and that will continue to happen. I am not about depending on another individual for my own happiness, because NEWS FLASH, if ya did not know already, YOU provide your own happiness, but it is pretty fantastic to share happiness with someone else. I mean, honestly, that is probably one of the greatest feelings in this world. 

 

  • LOVE THIS! I completely agree that kindness starts with the way we treat ourselves! If you don’t love and respect yourself, how can you expect others too? In the same sense, those who treat people poorly is just an extension of how they treat or feel about themselves! It’s so important to love yourself and others <3

  • μοναχικό κορίτσι

    i totally agree wih every single word of this post. Loving urself is the first rule of everything.GREAT POST !

  • It’s awesome that you already have such a healthy relationship. That’s what it’s all about!

  • Jennifer Juro

    I have been struggling with my relationship with myself for quite a while!! It does impact your relationships with others quite a bit!

  • CourtneyLynne

    Omg I love this!!! You think the same way I do! Loving yourself first is so very important

  • It’s really important that we love ourselves before we can love others. It makes us complete enough as a person so we end up being a better partner.

  • I agree. I always remember the saying ‘hurt people hurt people’. And I’ve definitely been on this journey of learning to be easy and kind to myself. I mean life is tough if you constantly have someone beating you down with words… so we should be kinder to ourselves. 🙂

  • This is amazing! Love is kind and if you truly love yourself, then your relationships will be better! I think that my husband and I have such a wonderful relationship because he helped me love myself more.

  • I’m loving all your posts on love! I think it is hard to practice self love. My yoga teacher used to end each session with a note “pat your back and be thankful for how your mind and body co-operated in this session, and love yourself!” It was like the hardest thing for me!

  • Angela Christoper

    I really love this very inspirational words. My heart was melt when I’ve read this.

  • mail4rosey

    Yep, this is a great post. You have to like who you are before you can properly extend anything to anyone else. 🙂

  • I love this! and I completely agree with you! You have to learn to love yourself before you can learn others. Once we’re happy with us, we see everything else in a positive way and changes everything. I seriously love your posts on love <3

  • Kendra

    This is a great way to think about love. You’re so right that the love we give is only a reflection of our own self-love.

  • What a sweet series! Self-love sounds redundant but there are so many people not loving themselves like they should. This is important and I am learning all the time ways to appreciate my own worth and shine my own light not waiting for approval or validation!

  • I agree. We need to love ourselves first to be able to give love to others.

  • This is an awesome post. I’m all for love. I’m still learning lessons and learning to forgive, one day at a time. Thanks for this awesome piece.

  • I agree with everything here. I think most people really don’t relate the way they treat others with the way they are treating themselves so I think that this is an important lesson. I loved this post!